Am I Doing This Right?

*Note: A favorite song/video is attached at the bottom. If you want to hear it while you're reading, it's okay to scroll to the bottom first :)

This evening, I'm scratching my head. I'm thinking about Kendall and wondering if I'm really doing any of this right. Okay, so the name of the game here is ... Don't Stress. She will be just fine. But will she, really?

Here's just some questions in my head tonight:

1. Now that she's okay with going "potty" both at home, at school and in public restrooms, when comes the bigger transition to night-time potty and the dreaded #2 in the potty? Am I doing this right in letting her make her own "transition"? She seemed to make her own decision when the potty was her friend...
2. Getting her to eat and eat AT THE TABLE is like a game of hide and seek. Now you see her, now you don't. She sits at the table, looks at food she loved the night before and utters the phrase... "I's no like it" and runs away. And even if she eats it, she runs off and a few minutes later, I'm running behind her with her food on a fork and getting it into her mouth. I just wonder if I should be forcing her to eat? Of course, she has much more important things to do than sit down and eat.
3. Possessive. That's about the only word I can use to describe how Kendall is most of the time. I let her go through my jewelry box and I emphasize how "mommy is sharing with Kendall"... and her reply is "Nooo, mize uulree necklace". So I know it is going to be tough for her to realize that not everything she touches is her. I know, I know... I've heard this already. Let her be a big sister and she'll learn quickly the art of sharing. Well, you know... I just don't think that's in the cards. And I certainly don't want to give her a little brother or sister just to help her share. If she's like this with us, I'm scared of how she is when she's at school with other. Her teachers assure me that she is sweet, which of course we know, but I sometimes wonder...

Now don't get me wrong... She eats great probably more times than not. Sometimes we hardly have enough food in the house to keep her satisfied. She pee's and poop's just like any other 2-3 year old. She "shares" when she wants to. She goes to the bathroom and is really getting better at it. I just keep asking myself, am I really doing this right? I read what the experts say and I think that I am ... but who else wishes for that magic "snap" of a finger and suddenly, these little ones are doing everything "we" hope that they should be doing.


I think I'm just having a moment where my brain is full of ????????. Fortunately, I have a feeling I'm not alone. Some of you probably have a whole host of other issues where you wonder if any of it is going "right".


My own heart2heart is really for me, I suppose. I should be the one taking my own advice this time. Patience. Knowledge. Happiness.


Patience that Kendall, in time, will grow out of some of these "mommy-hair-pulling-out" tendencies.

Knowledge and happiness that we've gotten to 2+ years and caught up for a lot of missed growth in the first few months of her life. 


I keep hearing the words ringing in my head that I should take a deep breath and relax. Trust in the path that's been laid for me. No worries about right or wrong. If I'm God's path, how can it be wrong?

Breathe.... Have a little faith in Me .... 

You may want to play this video and let some of the audio run while reading and thinking. It actually did me some good the second time :)